I had been a cuckold for many years before I asked myself the question, what is it. I had these feeling, suspicions, fantasies but hadn’t really questioned them.
Included below are seven signs you might be a cuckold — secretly, openly, or perhaps only in fantasy — from the point-of-view of a PSO. Below each sign I have added my own comments (in italic)
1. You’re curious about the sex lives of women you’re not dating or intimate with
It’s not about whether they might be good in bed, or how they’d look naked, but more like: are they sexually satisfied (this is important to you, even if it’s not with you)?
How many men might have they slept with (not because you think they’re slutty, but because you want them to get theirs)? When’s the last time they had sex, anyway? What kind of cocks might they like?
True story: I realised I had been asking women I knew about their sex lives. One particular woman was very open about her sex life, and I now know, she knew it turned me on and told me lots of stories (in detail). We later had a sexual relationship, frequented by her going on girls night out with her friends. One night she came home quite late and horny. I went down on her and I often did. I knew straight away she was more than just wet, she had cum inside her. I lapped at it like a man possessed. I came up for air, expecting intercourse. She whispered in my ear, we now both know don’t we, get back down there and get me off again and pushed my head down between her legs.. the beginning of my first cuckold relationship.
2. Instead of cock envy, you have cock admiration
You’re not gay or bi, but you can admire a good-looking cock — even feel compelled to worship a larger-sized member while yours knowingly pales in comparison. You fundamentally believe that men who have bigger cocks are superior, and deserve to have more sex, if not all of the sex. You might even feel that, if you have/had a girlfriend, that such a man should be able to have access to her* due to his size and perceived superiority alone (*and provided it’s consensual, and that she’d want him, too).
Again, I realise I used to ask girl-friends about the size of there mens dicks. Erm.. is he big?
3. You want your partner to seek out pleasure if she can’t get it from you
You might suck in bed, have a small cock, cum prematurely, or some combination thereof — in short, you’re not really worthy of pussy, but somehow, your mate is still intimate with you. It only fuels your desire to make sure her desires are met — best satiated, in your view, not by a vibrator or stepping up your approach, but by another, more alpha man.
One girl-friend loved watching porn with me. She would fish out a vibrator and have me watch both the video and her.
4. You enjoy being used in some capacity
Physically, financially, mentally, psychically: you enjoy feeling like a wet rag designed to be wrung out, hard. Whether it’s the idea of paying for your partner’s date with someone else, or offering yourself up as a test subject of sorts for poking and prodding, you prefer to be on the receiving end of fucked, literally and metaphorically.
5. Your significant other cheats on you, and instead of feeling angry, you’re apathetic or even aroused
You’re not surprised that she did — see any of the myriad reasons why she might have strayed above — and in fact, you hope she might do it again. You love the “sloppy seconds” way of life.
My first wife cheated on me many times.. dumb ass me knew, but didn’t admit it to myself. The first time was mutal with another couple. She had the hots for the guy, and I did with his gf but really, I wanted to see my wife with him. That blew up when they went into our bedroom leaving me with his gf in the lounge room. I was deflated. She was quite gorgeous and sexy but I just wasn’t feeling it. We talked and she said it was ok, but I knew it wasn’t.
It was the first of many times she cheated on me. I once caught her kissing a guy outside a party and spied on her for sometime. Another time I arrived home to find her with a guy (looking very guilty). Another time, she disappeared from a party with a guy and was gone for a few hours. And then finally, after many years, she arrived home after being with a guy, we both knew and headed for the bedroom. After some yummy 69 play, I came in her mouth. She moved up to kiss me, staring into my eyes, we both knew what she was about to do. My first creampie (my own). I accepted it and swallowed like a good cuck and then had her push my head down between her legs with “tongue fuck me cuck!”.. I was immediately hard again.
6. You’re already living the cuckold lifestyle
It might not be neatly defined, but you’re a cuck: letting your woman walk all over you while you sheepishly grin from the shadows; waiting patiently at home while your girlfriend stays out late (again); eagerly anticipating the day your belongings are moved to the guest bedroom. And so on.
Most of my cuckold relationships have been mutual but never with a dominating partner. The women all loved sex, that was the heart of it and they found a passion for extramarital sex through my fantasy. My second wife discovered my fantasy when we were living and working in a holiday resort. Lots of room for chance encounters which I am sure she had but it wasn’t what she admitted to me this night. She looked at me sheepishly in a bar at 4am and said I have something to tell you. I have been cheating on you with Stephen (barman at the bar she worked at). She admitted they were fucking at every opportunity including one night he had fucked her from behind at the bar while she was serving ME.
I don’t think my cock had been harder in my life. I was breathless, heart racing, mouth dry staring into her eyes. Without a word said, I took her hand and guided it to my hard cock. At first she moaned into my ear and then it slowly dawned on her. She smiled and whispered.. it turns you on doesn’t it? I came in my pants. She leaned in again and said… good, because I am going to keep fucking him and you’re going to be okay with it.
That began my first serious cuckold relationship where I experienced everything a cuckold can? Lots of boyfriends, hookups, flirting with guys, fucking and generally cucking at every opportunity. We did the bar thing, where I would sit away from her and watch guys hit on her. She was very attractive and had no problem meeting suitors. I always knew when she found one that she was going to fuck. I was a long range look, exchanging eye contact.. I am going to take him home and fuck his brains out.
She really loved sex in any shape or form. She had a couple of FF experiences, did a naked photshoot, sex parties, swinging (I watched). A porn video with two guys, who fucked her silly for over 5 hours (in every hole). We really tried it all.. but it came to a crashing end. She was nearing 35 and wanted children. She always had a thing about my best friend, and while he knew about our relationship, they had never done it (as far as I know). I now know, they had grown closer and closer (no sex) and she had begun saying she wanted to cuck me with him. But the reality was it was more than sex and cucking, she had fallen for him. Yep, that was the end for us as a couple. They snuck off at a party one night, fucked their brains out, she came home with that glazed, omg that was hot look. I knew, and as she wanked me in bed, I asked the question.. did he fuck you?.. She leaned in and whispered.. yes he fucked so good baby, so much better than you.
After I shot my load into her hand, she fed it to me saying.. as much as I love what we do, I’m moving out… the end!
7. If the word “cuckold” triggers you
Protest all you want — let the rage wash over your body. Then, feel something oddly comforting: deep-seated arousal from the acknowledgement of what and who you really are: a cuck.
I hope the 7 deadly cuckold signs and my experiences help you accept what you are. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a cuckold. You need the right partner, and sadly its not always your wife or the one you are with. I often say to men that write to us.. beside the natural reticence to admit to your wife or open up to her, if she doesn’t feel right then maybe she isn’t, and if thats the case, then keep it as YOUR fantasy.
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Written by Ashley Alair | medium.com
Ashley Alair is a virtual domina who writes about her experiences in sex work and at large. Learn more, and get in touch, at AshleyAlair.com.
In italics.. comments and experiences by Cucktastic (male half of The Cuckold Club).