This article is based on Bad Girls Bible: Cuckolding 101 Guide: Why Men Like It & How To Cuckold A Man
A fabulous title, written for the ladies but but needed editing to include/exclusde relevant information
What is Cuckolding?
Cuckolding is when one partner in a relationship sleeps with someone outside their relationship, with their partner’s knowledge and consent.
Another name for cuckolding is troilism, although you’ll only likely hear that from academics. In 50 years as a cuckold, I’vbe never heard of troilism.
Cuckolding involves a couple and a third person who has sex with one of the partners. While cuckolding can include people of any gender or sexual orientation, it typically involves a married couple and a man outside the marriage who has sex with the wife. Many cuckolding guides ignore other options.
Here are a few important terms you should know:
- The woman is sometimes also known as the cuckoldress.
- Her husband is the cuck or cuckold.
- The second man is the boyfriend or bull.
And the husband is being “cucked” by his wife and the bull in this situation.
Is cuckolding cheating? – Cuckolding is never cheating because both male and female know about it, consents. The cucked partner might be in the same room (perhaps masturbating), watching from a distance, or listening in.
Put simply, if one partner doesn’t know then 1. it’s cheating 2. it’s not cuckolding
Sometimes the cuck isn’t present – He may know that his wife is going to have sex with the bull and/or she may report details afterward. There is often an element of humiliation where the cuckoldress tells her husband how the bull is better than him.
A bigger penis is often a factor – This is an important factor for many cuckolds (much more than wives). Cuckolding couples often look for someone well-endowed or physically larger for the wife to sleep with to increase the husband’s humiliation.
When BDSM is involved, the husband might be restrained in bondage and “forced” to watch the bull with his wife. If the wife takes on a more dominant role, it can still be BDSM, even without physical implements.
How Common Is Cuckolding?
Cuckolding has entered the mainstream, perhaps because it’s a popular porn category, and porn is now more accessible than ever. As a result, popular media often casually mention cuckolding, and you’ll find plenty of cuckolding guides… but we aim to be the best!
Some people who would never have thought of or admitted to cuckolding fantasies may be talking about or trying to engage in cuckolding in real life after seeing or reading about it online.
However, that doesn’t mean that everyone is trying cuckolding. Participants, sex educators, and even those in the cuckold lifestyle agree that cuckolding seems to be on the rise. Still, we don’t have good data on how many people try cuckolding, let alone consider themselves in a cuckold relationship.
How many men fantasize about cuckolding? – In one study, Justin Lehmiller found that 58% of straight men had ever fantasized about cuckolding [2 ch 2]. Yet only around 25% of women had a similar fantasy. It stands to reason that men are more likely to suggest cuckolding to their female partners.
Why Do People Like Cuckolding?
Cuckolding might seem strange to some people because of the aspects of humiliation and objectification (of both the wife and bull). These feelings can be complicated, but here are some reasons why people might try it.
- Knowing or seeing your partner having someone sex with someone else, especially if that other person offers something you don’t, can simultaneously be arousing and humiliating.
- Breaking social rules can also be a turn-on. Plus, shame and guilt can also make us obsessed with something because it’s “bad.”
- For some couples, breeding is part of the fantasy
- Having sex with your partner after she has been with someone else can be hot. You might feel like you’re “reclaiming her” or you are a better man because your partner comes back to you.
Cuckolding seemingly puts the man in control of something–his wife sleeping with someone else–that would normally be outside of his control and cause hurt and upheaval. This differentiates cuckolding from cheating.
Do Women Like Cuckolding?
Many women do and many, initially doing it for their cuckold partners, go onto enjoy the fantasy as much as their cuckold partners.
They may enjoy cuckolding because they get to have sex with people other than their partners without jeopardizing their relationships. This may make them feel sexy and desirable. The element of taboo or even sharing the experience with their partners may make the activity enjoyable.
Cuckolding V Hotwifing V Swinging V Open Relationships V Other Activities/Relationships
Simple.. cuckolding has nothing to do with any of these?
Cuckold Fantasy Versus Reality
Can the fantasy be enough for you – While there are guys who want to watch their wives with other men, some only want to think and fantasize about it–maybe include it in dirty talk. For some people, the cuckolding fantasy is just that and they don’t want to learn how to cuckold their partner in real life.
Regret
and it’s HUGE! Couples cannot turn back the clock. Keep this in mind whenever the subject of introuducing a third partner to the relationship.
When cuckolding is a bad idea – For people who are not absolutely positive that their relationship won’t be harmed by cuckolding, it might be best that it stays a fantasy!
On the other hand, if you’ve got a serious cuck fetish, you may want to make it known early in your relationship. That way, you can establish a cuckold relationship from the start, and everyone is okay with it.
How to Explore cuckolding
How to Suggest It to Your Partner
It’s perfectly normal if you’re nervous about bringing up your interest in cuckolding with your partner. It’s quite taboo and it violates most rules that society has about relationships.
Your partner might not be open to the idea and might have a very bad reaction no matter what, but how you approach the conversation can make a big difference to how it goes.
If you already talk openly about sex, the conversation should be a little easier. We definitely recommend getting in the habit of taking about sex whether you’re into cuckoling or not.
Tips for Men Who Want to Bring it Up
You might mention how hot it is if someone else is attracted to your partner. A natural situation might arise where someone flirts with your wife. You could even ask a friend to do so if you have that kind of friendship.
Don’t rush to let her know that you’ve researched how to become a cuckold before she’s ready.
Tips for Women Who Want to Bring it Up
As a woman, you may choose to focus on explaining to your partner how much you enjoy feeling sexy and desirable.
But, be careful…
You don’t want to make your partner feel like they aren’t actually enough or that you’re not committed to the relationship.
Be prepared for your partner to ask questions like how you got the idea and if you learned about it in porn. You could reference a movie, story, or even this cuckolding 101 guide as inspiration.
Never try to force your partner into doing something they don’t want to do.
Even if they eventually agree, having to coerce them means it’s not consensual.
Take things slowly!
Before you actually do anything, including looking for a bull, you should have plenty of conversations.
They might go something like this:
- Talking about cuckolding as dirty talk during sex or a fantasy only
- Discussing hypotheticals such as who, where, and how it would go down
- Talking about why it’s appealing and what’s holding you back
- Researching common rules/boundaries and where to find a bull
- Describing your ideal situation and what it would do for either of you. These true sex stories from real people may give your some inspiration.
Fun Cuckolding Ideas
- Humiliation – usually the husband is humiliated for being inadequate in bed (physically or skillfully). It can be verbal with or without the bull present. It may happen before, during or after sex. You could compare body parts or photos.
- Natural order – the wife is so attractive or women are so sexual that it only makes sense for her to sleep with others
- Sneaking – behind her husband’s back to “cheat” on him, even though he really knows about it
- Insatiable wife – can’t get enough and can’t help herself
- “Forced” watching – husband is “forced” to watch (or listen) either in person or via technology
- Prevented watching – the husband cannot watch but will hear about it later
- Supervisor– wife sleeps with the boss
- Cougar – wife wants a younger “virile” man who is capable of getting her pregnant (even if you use protection) or satisfying her
- Bondage – the husband is bound while the wife has sex with the bull.
- Lesson teaching – the wife needs a “real man,” and the husband has to learn by watching
- Boredom – housewife needs excitement back in her life, perhaps from the pool boy or cable guy
- Dominance/submission – the wife is the alpha femdom and husband is the beta submissive
- Discovery – husband walks in on the wife and bull
Source: Cuckolding 101 Guide: Why Men Like It & How To Cuckold A Man
by Sean Jameson | badgirlsbible.com